5 Responses to “Forgiveness”

1. Lisa Says:
   June 6th, 2008 at 9:01 am

   Great article with easy to follow tips. I liked the part about taking the other person’s perspective. I’ve had to do that just recently and it helped me a lot. I also learned a bit about myself also.

   Also when someone like cuts me off on the freeway, instead of calling them a jerk or worse, when I can remember, I just shout “Bless You!” It feels a whole lot better.

2. Cosmo - the black dog! Says:
   June 6th, 2008 at 10:15 am

   I think it’s sometimes harder to forgive ourselves and that plays into depression. Kind of like the anger turned inwards sort of thing.

   Forgiving ourselves and others is a great way to let it all go and move on.

3. Faith Says:
   June 8th, 2008 at 7:24 pm

   Thanks for this article. I’m guilty of number 7 - telling the story over and over and over. My black dog keeps going at it like… well… like a dog with a bone.

   I have also done the exercise of telling the story from the other side. It was helpful at first, but then that became yet another rumination. I’m just sick and tired of the story of my heartbreak, and I do want to move on. I love the revelation that “to forgive” in Aramaic means “to untie.” That’s a good image to envision.

   Lisa, I really love the idea of shouting “Bless you!” to traffic offenders. That’s definitely better than what usually pops out of my mouth!

4. Cosmo - the black dog! Says:
   June 8th, 2008 at 7:43 pm

   Faith,

   Number 7 rings true for me too. I’m trying to learn to keep my mouth shut about it and then stop telling myself about it.

   What do you do with a heartbreak? That to me is one of the toughest things to get over. It’s like you’re trying to will yourself to forget but your mind won’t let you. The memories keep popping up.

   I think we need to just keep on with the TLC and hopefully over time the memories will loose their grip.

5. Lisa Says:
   June 9th, 2008 at 9:18 am

   Faith,

   I hear you about the heartbreak. I can’t believe it’s been a year for me. Though I have stopped telling my story (I have run out of people to tell it to), I still have light days and heavy days. My friends are finally learning to be quiet about me not dating and getting “out there” to meet someone new.

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